Monday, February 1, 2010 @12:27 PM
Osim. It's this little conversation i had today with a pal that just sets me thinking.
"but thinkin back..without u..things will be so much diff..if..."
It's the little things people do n how they reciprocates to one's efforts. importantly, it's people whom u care for. friends.
This friend of mine was just mentioning to me about some incident that happened. He felt disappointed being taken for granted despite being friends for some time..n after he just stated this."im sure u feel this hundred times more than me". I was taken aback. I've never really thought of this. but somehow it did hit me.
I'm not asking for anything in return. but neither do i want to be taken for granted. It's sad to know that when i was not around in sg, none bothered to organise the usual friday meetups. be it a simple dinner or so. It's something i did hope that will happen when i left sg.
I mean Come On, issit that i really need the meetup? issit really me being the only one who's looking forward to meetup with THE friends? Im sure i will always turn up for any of the gatherings that any of our peeps organise. It's not that im so into wadever activities the then organiser proposed, it's the little support to give to someone who actually bothers doing something for the group. Isn't this kinda heard/seen alot of times? "It's not the activities that matter, it's the group of people u are with." But. how true is this in actual life.
He mentioned that the bond among our group seems to be fading away..n i definetly agrees to that. But what can i do.
Every friday, i'll try to keep this bond alive, by organising meetups. be it dinner + wadever activities after. Yes, if u had not notice, the thought of doing wad after dinner actually kills me each week. Yes, and many would say "who ask u ask so many people, everyone also jio."
Yes, i chose to send smses to abt 30people each week. inviting them to join us for the activities.
It's just like taking my own hand and slapping my own face.
Take a few minutes, if not just a few seconds, to think about this. "It's not a badge, it's a family crest."
It's the reason why i chose to waste my sms . sending to all peeps in the team.
As according to him, if i didnt invite the rest of the peeps in the team to join us, would the bond be as strong like now. i really don't know.
I'm sure many of those who had organised the meetups before have told me that they would get damn Sians. when they receive lotsa -ve replies..the trouble of thinking what to do after dinner.
Did you ever put ureself in my shoes ..i always get that kinda negative replies. it oversurge the +ve replies normally. do u not think i'll feel disappointed as well. being the one doing it in n out each week. And at times, the response i get during the meetups is like "eh, organiser, so doing wad after dinner." "eh organiser, so little people ah?".
Perhaps u may see this as a ranting part of mine, or rather the usual "emo" tag many loves to put on me. Many would also take me as a joker. But no.
It's just something i wish everyone can take a little of their time to think about, if, this so called friendship/bond is important to you.
-the word sick is an understatement when it's fitted into my life-
